Long Time... No See...

Well..  Its indeed been a long time since I have written anything, I have been so busy doing nothing that I just didn't get time to write, let alone write, I didn't even get time to visit my Blog. Oh Yeah !! You got it right.. Doing Nothing kept  me so damn busy. You don't believe me !! , Go start doing nothing and you will see. You get into a routine of doing nothing, The thought process itself is so tiring that it drains you by the time the sun goes down, and post that its a never ending struggle between your Watching TV or Going to bed early, and usually, the going to bed early wins the battle.. especially if you are residing in Delhi, in the winter months.

Well.. A lot happened in these months the highlights being me getting my PS3 replaced, Moving out of the house and taking up an independent accommodation, a lot of cooking, a few of my friends getting married and blah blah blah.. and a lot of other cool and not so cool, relevant/Irrelevant things that made a significant impact on the day to day living of this insignificant character.

Independence is a good feeling.. Not always.. but most of the time, it brings along the freedom of doing things your way, setting up of the infrastructure the way you need/want it to be, eating/drinking/sleeping on your time and schedule. Though it brings with it the well known daemons like, loneliness  detachment, Increased smoking, getting freedom to watch too much porn (I am counting this as a negative).. etc etc etc.. In a nut shell, its good, even with all the daemons,

One should experience it, The Independence , if not permanently, definitely for some time. It teaches you the importance of your time, your actions, your loved ones and I would even say that it brings you closer to your loved ones. When I was staying with my folks, I don't even remember when was the last time I had  a good healthy conversation with them. All i used to do was, Get in the house, bolt into my room, and get busy with my gadgets. Get in, Eat, Sleep, Get out.. was my routine. Now, whenever I go home, Even if its for 2 - 4 hours, That time is completely spent in a conversation with my folks, we discuss anything and everything under the sun, and I dun have to worry about getting in my room and playing with my gadgets  That is our time, lovely time and even they are happy, and even closer to me. So, a little distance, may bring people closer to each other. Rest, it depends on the setting to setting, family to family, person to person, situation to situation........

Well.. Moving On.. .. In fact . That is all for now.. I will hopefully.. catch up with you soon .. hopefully.. and the title will not be.. Long Time... No See.. !! :-).. Next Time.. May be will tell you about my cooking endeavors.. :-D.. With Pictures !!  

The Importance of “I Like You”…

We get so busy in our “I Love You” s that we forget the importance “I Like You” in our lives. Have you ever thought about it, that how many times do we actually use Like instead of Love in our conversations. In My Opinion, Love is a over hyped, over used, over said word which sometimes does not really convey the real meaning that we want to put forward. We use it so many times that we start saying it just for the heck of it.

We say I love you to our partner, parents, cousins, friends and many others and we say it so casually that it misses the mark many of the times. Do we actually love them all? Do we actually mean it ? Are we thinking about the actual feeling that “I Love You” will convey when its said just like that.  Food for thought.

Now comes the real question, I Like You, How many times have we ever told our partner that We like something which they did, Our Dearest friend that we Like what he/she has just done for us. Or simply that we like spending time with someone. Or a simple.. "I Like You".. Try it, It feels good, and it has a very clear meaning.

I believe that “I Like You” is much more powerful than I love you.  You might love your parents, your partner, your cousins but think about it, do you really like them too.. and do you like them all, the same way you like that one person with whom you spend most of your time. I am not even going into the relationships or marriage. It’s just the matter of conveying your message clearly.

 Try using the phrase and see the difference it brings to your life, your relationships. Again, it’s a food for thought.

Happiness...What... How... When... Where!!

The Master Key

Is there a key to happiness? I keep on pondering and wondering on the thought. What is happiness? How do we achieve it? And more importantly if we achieve it how do we know we have achieved it?

In the next few paragraphs, I am just going to give you the food for your thoughts and nothing else. And may be raise more questions than actually provide answers and just give you my 2 cents on the topic.

Sleeping Doggies on a Cold Night

Let’s start with the key to happiness, personally for me; the key to my happiness is doing something which takes me away from the usual. Yupp... it’s that simple. I spend 10 - 12 hours at work doing the usual stuff, boring stuff, don’t really have a choice... Do I? So when I want to be happy, I do something different, something which I have not done before. A few weeks ago I tried Bowling, and I loved it, it was something that I never indulged into before and now that I think of it, those 2 hrs I spent in the bowling alley were actually amazing as it took my mind off whatever I was thinking. I was like a small kid who was just thrilled by that Strike and did a “High Five” after almost every good shot. For you, it might be as simple as taking a walk. My Funda... do something different and then see... Did it take your mind off off your usuals... did it provide you with something fresh to think about? Did u feel relaxed? We get so busy in our daily routines that we forget the unusuals. Try it. And see if you can come up with what your unusuals and tell me if you have your key to happiness.

 

Taking the question of "How Do I know When I am Happy" a little further. Many of us are so busy in the run-of-the-mill tasks that we don’t stop and see how that makes us feel. Have you ever thought that a simple task of walking barefoot on a beach or cracking a joke and make someone LOL makes you feel?? You might not have given it a thought at all, however the next time you do something like this. Stop and Think. I am sure you will get a different perspective. Think of the person next to you and he might get inspired by you to do the same.

Service With a Smile

Continuing on the "Stop-n-Think" strategy, I sincerely believe in it. Whenever you are doing something unusual, stop yourself after you complete the task and think. How does that make you feel, do you feel a little sense of satisfaction, a sense of self achievement, or it might just make you smile. Isn’t that happiness? And these things if done again and again, and multiplied by their sheer number of occurrences, will make you a happier person? Just look at the guy on the right. He is just giving bhuttas, on a cold winter day, and just look at his amazing smile, he looks happy from within. Again... Food for thought... and Open for discussion...

Happiness should be in oneself, it cannot be chased, or should I say, should not be chased. IMHO, Happiness is accepting your flaws and not worrying too much about what the other person thinks of you or your deeds. There are million or zillions things that can be said about happiness, what matters is, what makes you happy? What makes you click? What makes you bring that million dollar smile on your face which can simply brighten up your day as well as the day of people in your vicinity? Think about it...and then live it... and...Very Importantly.. Stay Happy!! :-)

Bapu Kehnda... Tension Nai Laini !!

One of my very dear friends keeps reciting the above phrase. And I keep on thinking, does saying it really helps? The whole fucking environment around us is filled with rage, tension, stress and god knows what all other negative stuff. Everywhere you go, everywhere you see there is someone hitting someone, either literally or emotionally.  So how do you really escape from the entire high tension environment? Well.. Here is my take on it.

Saying it helps. It definitely does!! Continuously saying the above phrase will actually help you cool your temper, I have tried it and it has worked for me. On numerous occasions, while driving, while in a disagreement at work or even in a friendly fight which was about to turn ugly. It brings the temperature down and helps cool you down and even the other party involved in the conflict. Try it. You never know it might just work for you.

Whenever in a conflict ask yourself the question, the quintessential question, What Am I Getting from This?  Is your car hit, The damage is already done, you cannot turn back time and go back on the decision of taking/not taking that turn to avoid the accident, so..once again.. the damage is already done. So why the FUCK are you engaging yourself in the fist fight, I am not saying be like Gandhi Ji and say Koi na yaar chal chadd de, ho gaaya hun... jaan de.. There are other ways to show your aggression. Even an eye can do the job. People usually underestimate the power of the stare/glare. Use your glair instead of your voice. Try This. At least once and see how well it works.

 

Imagery is another very effective method, what basically it means is think and visualize something nice, someplace nice, a happy place which will bring down the temper, My advice, don’t start using it when you are driving :-P, not a good place to imagine things when the road requires all your attention, however this can be used in office tension situations, had a fight with your boss. Come to your seat/cubicle/desk and sit and breathe.. Breathe some more.. . Then relax your muscles and close your eyes for a min, imagine that Goa vacation that you took, that scene at Baga Beach, sitting at the English cafe with that Tuborg Bottle and seeing the sunset through the green bottle. And WHAM !! There goes your tension. I like this technique. What it does is, apart from relieving the tension, it also tells me what I am really working for. My Goal.. :-D

Music.. The Ultimate stress reliever. My Funda.. When In Doubt/Tension, Go to the MusicLand. Take that smartphone/ipod/mp3 player/walkman(Really.. U still Using those :-P) and take a dive into the musicland. Its Bloody AWESUM !! Anything that you enjoy, smooth, light, fast, disco, rap bloody hell it can be anything. I believe it’s a myth that only a particular kind of music can soothe you and your temper, Its Music. ANY KIND OF MUSIC. Just put those earphones on and hit play. 5 mins and you are lost, you wouldn’t even remember what were you thinking and why did u start the music. Its that good.

I can go on and on with many more techniques, however I believe in the above three very much. I have tried all of them and they work for me. I don’t know if they will work for you or not, however I am sure they will be very helpful in pushing you towards a thought process of relieving the tension that’s around you. If not these, something else will work for you however you will put an effort to find out what will.

So. Thank You My Dear Friend.... My Best wishes to you all.. and.. Again. Bapu Kehnda.. Tension Nahi Laini.. :-D