Long Time... No See...

Well..  Its indeed been a long time since I have written anything, I have been so busy doing nothing that I just didn't get time to write, let alone write, I didn't even get time to visit my Blog. Oh Yeah !! You got it right.. Doing Nothing kept  me so damn busy. You don't believe me !! , Go start doing nothing and you will see. You get into a routine of doing nothing, The thought process itself is so tiring that it drains you by the time the sun goes down, and post that its a never ending struggle between your Watching TV or Going to bed early, and usually, the going to bed early wins the battle.. especially if you are residing in Delhi, in the winter months.

Well.. A lot happened in these months the highlights being me getting my PS3 replaced, Moving out of the house and taking up an independent accommodation, a lot of cooking, a few of my friends getting married and blah blah blah.. and a lot of other cool and not so cool, relevant/Irrelevant things that made a significant impact on the day to day living of this insignificant character.

Independence is a good feeling.. Not always.. but most of the time, it brings along the freedom of doing things your way, setting up of the infrastructure the way you need/want it to be, eating/drinking/sleeping on your time and schedule. Though it brings with it the well known daemons like, loneliness  detachment, Increased smoking, getting freedom to watch too much porn (I am counting this as a negative).. etc etc etc.. In a nut shell, its good, even with all the daemons,

One should experience it, The Independence , if not permanently, definitely for some time. It teaches you the importance of your time, your actions, your loved ones and I would even say that it brings you closer to your loved ones. When I was staying with my folks, I don't even remember when was the last time I had  a good healthy conversation with them. All i used to do was, Get in the house, bolt into my room, and get busy with my gadgets. Get in, Eat, Sleep, Get out.. was my routine. Now, whenever I go home, Even if its for 2 - 4 hours, That time is completely spent in a conversation with my folks, we discuss anything and everything under the sun, and I dun have to worry about getting in my room and playing with my gadgets  That is our time, lovely time and even they are happy, and even closer to me. So, a little distance, may bring people closer to each other. Rest, it depends on the setting to setting, family to family, person to person, situation to situation........

Well.. Moving On.. .. In fact . That is all for now.. I will hopefully.. catch up with you soon .. hopefully.. and the title will not be.. Long Time... No See.. !! :-).. Next Time.. May be will tell you about my cooking endeavors.. :-D.. With Pictures !!  

The Importance of “I Like You”…

We get so busy in our “I Love You” s that we forget the importance “I Like You” in our lives. Have you ever thought about it, that how many times do we actually use Like instead of Love in our conversations. In My Opinion, Love is a over hyped, over used, over said word which sometimes does not really convey the real meaning that we want to put forward. We use it so many times that we start saying it just for the heck of it.

We say I love you to our partner, parents, cousins, friends and many others and we say it so casually that it misses the mark many of the times. Do we actually love them all? Do we actually mean it ? Are we thinking about the actual feeling that “I Love You” will convey when its said just like that.  Food for thought.

Now comes the real question, I Like You, How many times have we ever told our partner that We like something which they did, Our Dearest friend that we Like what he/she has just done for us. Or simply that we like spending time with someone. Or a simple.. "I Like You".. Try it, It feels good, and it has a very clear meaning.

I believe that “I Like You” is much more powerful than I love you.  You might love your parents, your partner, your cousins but think about it, do you really like them too.. and do you like them all, the same way you like that one person with whom you spend most of your time. I am not even going into the relationships or marriage. It’s just the matter of conveying your message clearly.

 Try using the phrase and see the difference it brings to your life, your relationships. Again, it’s a food for thought.

Schrodinger's cat....An Experiment, An Analogy

I read about this yesterday and I found it very interesting. Lets start with what exactly it is. 


Erwin Schrödinger, A Physicist, in 1935 conducted a Quantum Physics experiment, here is what he did.


This is a Hypothetical experiment that he conducted. We place a living cat into a steel chamber, along with a device containing a vial of hydrocyanic acid. There is, in the chamber, a very small amount of hydrocyanic acid, a radioactive substance. If even a single atom of the substance decays during the given test period, a relay mechanism will trip a hammer, which will, in turn, break the vial and kill the cat. Now comes the interesting part. The person sitting outside (The Observer) will never know, until he opens the box as to what is the fate of the cat. He would never know if the atom substance has decayed, and hence cannot know whether the vial has been broken, the hydrocyanic acid released, and the cat killed.


Since we cannot know the fate of the cat, as per Quantum Law, the cat is both dead and alive at the same time and this is called the superposition of states. If only we open the steal chamber, and peep inside, we would know whether the atom decayed, the acid leaked, the hammer smashed and the cat died or not. Which would make it clear and then we would have a clear fate of the cat.

So in other words, the observation or the measurement itself will affect the outcome and the outcome itself, on its own will not exist, and there will be no single outcome until the observation is made.

Now this is all Physics and might sound a little boring, and you might be thinking.. WTF happened to him, and why did he start discussing Quantum Physics out of the blue. Well I heard about the analogy and I found it to be directly impacting our lives, here is my take on the cat experiment.

In our lives, when we start thinking about the hypothetical situations, and start dreaming and imagining them on multiple levels and usually in our minds begin our sentences with “What If” and then just leave the thought there in the open and move on to something else, at that stage, how will we even know the fate of that thought, of that “Non-Action” of ours if we do not go right ahead and jump right in. 

Let’s say, we love someone, and we talk to the other party involved and there is no decision in place as to whether the relationship should continue or not. How will the fate of that relationship ever be known if the relationship has never begun? It’s like the cat; it’s both dead and alive at that stage. You would never be able to determine the fate without opening the box. Similarly you would never be able to determine the fate of a relationship without jumping in it.

This is just one analogy from this experiment, I am sure you can find thousands other, Just wanted to share the thought and put it out there. Interesting right ? 

Bapu Kehnda... Tension Nai Laini !!

One of my very dear friends keeps reciting the above phrase. And I keep on thinking, does saying it really helps? The whole fucking environment around us is filled with rage, tension, stress and god knows what all other negative stuff. Everywhere you go, everywhere you see there is someone hitting someone, either literally or emotionally.  So how do you really escape from the entire high tension environment? Well.. Here is my take on it.

Saying it helps. It definitely does!! Continuously saying the above phrase will actually help you cool your temper, I have tried it and it has worked for me. On numerous occasions, while driving, while in a disagreement at work or even in a friendly fight which was about to turn ugly. It brings the temperature down and helps cool you down and even the other party involved in the conflict. Try it. You never know it might just work for you.

Whenever in a conflict ask yourself the question, the quintessential question, What Am I Getting from This?  Is your car hit, The damage is already done, you cannot turn back time and go back on the decision of taking/not taking that turn to avoid the accident, so..once again.. the damage is already done. So why the FUCK are you engaging yourself in the fist fight, I am not saying be like Gandhi Ji and say Koi na yaar chal chadd de, ho gaaya hun... jaan de.. There are other ways to show your aggression. Even an eye can do the job. People usually underestimate the power of the stare/glare. Use your glair instead of your voice. Try This. At least once and see how well it works.

 

Imagery is another very effective method, what basically it means is think and visualize something nice, someplace nice, a happy place which will bring down the temper, My advice, don’t start using it when you are driving :-P, not a good place to imagine things when the road requires all your attention, however this can be used in office tension situations, had a fight with your boss. Come to your seat/cubicle/desk and sit and breathe.. Breathe some more.. . Then relax your muscles and close your eyes for a min, imagine that Goa vacation that you took, that scene at Baga Beach, sitting at the English cafe with that Tuborg Bottle and seeing the sunset through the green bottle. And WHAM !! There goes your tension. I like this technique. What it does is, apart from relieving the tension, it also tells me what I am really working for. My Goal.. :-D

Music.. The Ultimate stress reliever. My Funda.. When In Doubt/Tension, Go to the MusicLand. Take that smartphone/ipod/mp3 player/walkman(Really.. U still Using those :-P) and take a dive into the musicland. Its Bloody AWESUM !! Anything that you enjoy, smooth, light, fast, disco, rap bloody hell it can be anything. I believe it’s a myth that only a particular kind of music can soothe you and your temper, Its Music. ANY KIND OF MUSIC. Just put those earphones on and hit play. 5 mins and you are lost, you wouldn’t even remember what were you thinking and why did u start the music. Its that good.

I can go on and on with many more techniques, however I believe in the above three very much. I have tried all of them and they work for me. I don’t know if they will work for you or not, however I am sure they will be very helpful in pushing you towards a thought process of relieving the tension that’s around you. If not these, something else will work for you however you will put an effort to find out what will.

So. Thank You My Dear Friend.... My Best wishes to you all.. and.. Again. Bapu Kehnda.. Tension Nahi Laini.. :-D

My Theory of Relativity !!

In a particular situation; dissatisfied, stationary or satisfied, the objective is not simply “The Goal”, however its the “Relative Goal “set by the competitive subject.

It’s always relative, Let me repeat, It’s always relative. Whatever we do, whatever we think, whatever we think we can do, is always relative. It’s relative to thyself, its relative to the past, it’s relative to the competition or it may be even relative to a dear friend’s performance.

Let’s see, I am going for a morning walk, a simple task, what do I do, I pick up my shoes, wear my tracks and get out of the house for a walk. Does it stop here, No! What I do is, I measure, ALWAYS, How much did I do yesterday or how much my neighbour is doing, how much that guy on TV said that a person of my age can/should do? What is it.. Relativity.  I could have simply done my bit and walked till I felt tired and stopped and gone home and slept, But No, I always measure. Keeda hai na !! Relativity ka Keeda !

Similarly, its appraisal time, all is done, everything completed, Letters are handed, and I get above market average and I am more than satisfied (Don’s get excited, Hypothetical situation:-P, Happy.. During Letter Distribution.. Ha.. U kidding me!!) and I move on, then a few weeks later, there comes the news that the guy who was with me, equally deserving, got 4 % more than what I got. Now.. The happy feeling is gone, I don’t look at any bloody reason i am just sad, all worked up and ready to go to the boss to fight (Again Hypothetical, you forgot ..HR’s Famous Non Disclosure Policy.. :-P). Why is that.. This is relativity; I was all fine till I got to compare my numbers with someone else.

Why is relativity becoming such an important part of our lives, Yes, the other name of relativity can be competition, however still, why do I have to compete, compete with anything in the similar domain. Why I can’t simply live my own life with its merits and demerits or whatever it has in store for me, Why do I have to say, I need a “Relatively” bigger car, as I very clearly know that that bigger car will also serve the same purpose as my current car?  Food for thought!!